....Unmistakably today, the word “Abuse”, is all too commonly used. In terms of the nationally syndicated news media, the word abuse is literally in vogue. We read of drug abuse and alcohol abuse. These subsequently are followed by family abuse. Child abuse is now all too frequent throughout the US. Abuse may manifest itself in a simple act of neglect. I have read of cases where a Mother leaves her child in a car for just a few minutes to run into a convenience store, while the summer heat upon a closed automobile is threatening to a child. The Mother may be reported as negligent! We also witness abuse in instances where it is escalated to a raging physical attack. Spousal abuse has unfortunately become a way of life for far too many in our society. A parent’s abuse of their own child is very difficult to understand. However, a man’s abuse of his relationship partner is equally unclear. 
    How one could stoop to such a low point of self control. Even young, “big boys” recognize it wrongful to “pick on little boys”. Similarly, in a general sense most men believe themselves to be superior in physical strength to a woman. Therefore, striking a woman is an incongruent act and a validation to lacking the most basic traits of manhood and masculinity. Yet abuse continues to be a common cause of divorce. Additionally, there exists emotional abuse which often may result in addictions, illness, depression, general fatigue, and buried fears; all of which prevent a healthy relationship from evolving. Strong, lasting relationships don’t happen, they are developed over time. Strong relationships can only occur when two people deliberately work at it. A man and a woman who are continually in total control of themselves, their emotions, and whose goals are to make it work. Simple! To both, I would say; “turn down the volume”. This means never, under any set of circumstances, ever raise your voice. This is most damaging, regardless who is right. And why does that matter? To the man, I remind you that the opposite of abuse is to plaudit, and to respect. Frequent commendations, and verbalized appreciations for anything, no matter how trivial, can build, as opposed to weaken or destroy your relationship. Any acts of protection and praise, both privately and publicly, are building blocks to perpetuating a fulfilling, Loving, romantic relationship. If you honestly and sincerely care for your “Miss Right”, then any form of abuse should never remotely emerge in any situation. The best antonym for abuse is to cherish. Clearly, no one is capable of abusing someone whom they truly cherish. Think about it! This is a polarization of feelings; the two cannot coexist. If you Love someone, you will cherish her. Whom you cherish, you cannot abuse! Also, in any interpersonal relationship, regardless of gender, abuse in any form is a glaring testimony to a vacuous lack of good character which is still regarded as an asset to a person’s value. Simply, Love, and be Loved!

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